Resources

Notes from a slow practice.

Essays, conversations and field notes. Written between sessions, when something asks to be put down in words.

  • EssayMarch 20269 min

    The architecture of safety

    Before any conversation about who is right, the nervous system asks a quieter question. Notes on the somatic ground beneath intimacy.

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  • ConversationFebruary 202622 min · audio

    On staying - a dialogue between us

    Talib and Shubhaa talk about the early years of their own practice, and what they have learned about returning when it would be easier to leave.

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  • Field noteJanuary 20266 min

    The repair sequence we teach

    A small choreography of three movements. Not a script, a rhythm couples can return to when the thread has broken.

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  • EssayDecember 202511 min

    Why we don't fix relationships

    Most popular relationship advice assumes a problem to solve. We work from a different premise. A note on the difference.

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  • Field noteNovember 20254 min

    The room before the room

    What we ask couples to do in the ten minutes before a session, and why it matters more than the session itself.

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